stubbornseedling:

My best friend is demi, and it breaks my heart how torn she sometimes feels over whether she’s ‘ace enough’ to identify as being part of the asexuality spectrum.

Dear demisexual people (and gray and flux people too, while I’m at it), please believe me when I say: you are part of this community. You are under the umbrella with the rest of us.

Your orientation is not a transition or a phase. Your orientation is not incomplete.

Just like a bi person is still bi regardless of which gender they happen to be in relationship with at the time, you are always demi and always ace spectrum.

You do not ‘change’ from being ace to being non-ace just because at one point in a relationship you feel no attraction and at another time you do feel it.

I don’t want to force an identity on you, so I mean, if you don’t want to call yourself ace/asexual spectrum/etc, I’m not saying you’re required to.

But if you do want to? If you want to be part of this community, this identity, if the idea of not fitting into it or not being accepted in it hurts your heart even a little tiny bit? Then you belong here.

And we love you.

(And I’d appreciate it if everyone would help me spread the message.)